So what's that crap I do not write over there? Oh, you know the usual things that people do when there's more than two of them? They instantly organize into factions and start fucking blood-feuding, that's what. There are factions within the club and lots of people outside that folks do not want to have anything to do with. It's quite amusing, in fact. For which I feel kinda, but not enough bad, as these all are perfectly valid human emotions, these people are suffering in the throes of. I myself will try to not have anything to do with that, I'm trying to teflon coat meself and not limit my contacts to any one faction. Of course that means that I have a one-man faction right here, suffering from misjudged sense of superiority, but hey, popcorn!? But yeah, human nature and all that. Sooner or later I'll have an opinion about something and then... just one more potato in the pot, I am.
I also sense a lingering aroma of sexism and chauvinism mixed in the soup, and I must say I'm a bit floored by it, as thought that younger, educated Finns are way past them. But yeah, it only figures as sexism and chauvinism are sadly very deep-rooted in our society. In this club I seenothing overt, or exceptional, but it most certainly is there. I think, It's only because of novelty of the experience that I notice them in these young people, as I have encountered worse examples (and ye gods forbid, fucking unwritten practices) of sexism and chauvinism in each and every place I've worked. Plus in amongst my other acquaintances, there are definitely some very sexist individuals. Will not go into specifics there, but you'll see it when you know what to look for. The problem is, it is not easy to see stuff going on about in your own society or patterns of behavior on your fucking shiny-buttocked, matador-like, prancing-on-about-pompously self.
The gals (that remain, he was afraid) do not seem to mind too much, but the ugliest part about sexism is that it is so easy to go along with. Even I myself have uttered comments during my short time with these people, that I wish I could take back, as they have bordered on the thin red line, AND I'M WATCHING OUT FOR THOSE. So there's definitely an air of self-righteous, Holier-Than-Thou crap in this very blog entry too. Yeah folks, shocking it may seem, I know I have sexist tendencies myself, but there are others that have more and that's what I notice. I'l try to keep a closer watch of meself more carefully in the future, though.
What I think is good, as far as I have been able to to see it, that the grand majority of these folks treat a woman gamer just as another gamer. You get valued by your creative input, your skills, your persona and in true geek fashion the stuff you're into and own, more than your looks, plumbing or the prevalent ridiculous gender expectations. I just pray that that is more of an actual fact than wishful thinking. Let's just try to make it more of an actual fact, shall we?
All that aside, the hands down worst thing I have seen with these people is one horrendously homophobic drunken amok run by one individual in writing and boy was I surprised that instead of a verbal pile-in and a kicking-out-of-the-club, there was a wave of shus-shushing and 'there's-blame-in-everyone' garbage. WTF? This shit is serious and in some other countries you go to prison from hate speech.Here's to hoping I'll remember the nick correctly as there's the one person I myself will have nothing to do with. I just hope that this was an isolated incident and only one individual, but this was the episode that almost turned me off the whole club before I even had started to get to know anyone.
But yeah, that's it for the dark side of things. One thing I had forgotten was that young people are fucking bright. There's none of that emotional, psychological and physical baggage we thirty-somethings are lugging around (and like to call "life experience") and as a result their brains are nimble as nightingales as opposed to us 30+ folks being nimble as narwhals in regard to our mental faculties. I think that the flip side is that there exists a greater degree of absoluteness, idealism, and tunnel vision amongst these individuals, so one has to tread more carefully and cut more slack than one has been used to. But that's not a 'flip side' after all, it's just some good, old fashioned fucking human decency.